Monday, September 26, 2011

It's been interesting, Thanks

To many this isn't news since I made this decision several weeks ago.
I haven't kept it a secret but I figured that I should say something publicly.

There's no better place to do so than right here where people can see it.

This decision has actually been brewing in my mind for a pretty long time.

In my July 21st post I referred to the Council meeting of that week.
Specifically a member of the public who showed up and was somewhat annoying.
What I didn't mention was that to be at that Council meeting I had to leave my sons' baseball game in the second inning.

As I sat in the meeting listening to that gentleman a nagging thought in my head was saying "I am missing my boys' baseball game for this".

That wasn't the first time I had heard that thought.

I'll admit that I've been pretty lucky in my term on Council as far as schedule conflicts. Usually these things have worked out pretty well.
However, there have been several occasions that I have missed a game due to a meeting.

I won't blame New Maryland Council for all that I've missed.

I missed T's very first hockey goal several years ago to be at a meeting of NBSCETT Council. I was the president at the time. (I'm not currently involved with NBSCETT Council.)

I still feel the sting of that day.
I remember clearly when my cell phone rang during the meeting. I excused myself to take the call.

It was T calling to tell me that he scored his very first goal that day.
I was so damn proud of him and announced it to everyone at the meeting that my son had scored his first goal.

An awesome feeling and a terrible feeling at the same time.
I wasn't there when he scored the goal.

Honestly, I don't know how my boys feel when I wave goodbye to them while they are on the ball diamond or hockey rink in the middle of a game.

If you were to ask them they would probably tell you that it's okay and no big deal but I'm not sure that would be the whole truth.

Do you know why I think this? Because of the bad feeling I have in my stomach as I am waving goodbye to them while they are in the middle of a game.

Anyone who knows me knows how much I love watching my sons in anything that they are involved in.
That's no surprise. Any decent parent has that feeling.

My sons will be 14 years old next year when the municipal election comes along.
If I were to run for a Council position and win, that would mean another 4 year term on New Maryland Council.

At the end of that 4 years my boys will be 18 years old.
I'm not trying to predict the future but I'm thinking that by the time my sons are 18 years old they may not have as much time in their lives for baseball, hockey and activities as they do right now.

The next few years in my sons' lives are going to be pretty special ones.
My being there with them may be important for them.
It will be critical to me.

So, I've made up my mind that I will not be running for a position on New Maryland Council in the upcoming election.

I'm not saying that I will never run again though.

I plan to stay on at least one of the committees that I am on right now.

Perhaps in a few years when the boys have grown up and have lives that are mainly independent of my own I'll decide to jump into the fray again.

I'm not leaving the game. I just want to sit on the bench for a while.

Thanks for putting me in Coach.

Stay well,


Deb said...

You know, all that I see written here is a BIG heart and so much love for your family. I can't see anything else. You're a dedicated member, a dedicated father and husband. Kudos to all you do!

Anonymous said...

You aren't sitting on the bench. You are resting up for the playoffs.

Best regards,

Wanderer said...

Tim, I can't imagine ANYONE saying anything negative about this decision. I also can't imagine a more loving and supportive father who wants to be a part of his sons' lives while he can. I know you ara also dedicated to your community, so this decision was not an easy one for you, but I'm sure in the years to come you'll realize it was the BEST one! Regards,


Tim Scammell, PTech said...

Thank you folks. Decent people understand where I'm coming from.
A friend put it on his blog and the nasties have come out.
I'm just ignoring them.

MItch Devine said...

I don't think you'll regret this decision at all! Well played, Tim :)

J. Cantwell said...

Brings a tear to my eye, working in the education field I see too many children with parents who just don't give a dam, let alone care what their children are doing in school or at a sporting event. When one of my students askes me "to come watch them play" I make every effort to be there. Hats off to you Mr. Scammell, your children will benefit for many years knowing Dad was there.